Shock: How did this happen? I didn't expect this to happen - to him/her/me/ - at this time - in this place.

Helplessness: I can't fix it, change it, take it back, control it or make it like it was before. Everything is now different and I don't know what to do.

Confusion: What do I do now? How will I get through this? What am I supposed to do now?

Fear or panic: What will happen next? Where? When? To whom?

Isolation or alienation: Nobody can understand what I'm feeling or going through.

Greif: For the loss of a loved one, for the loss of your sense of security, for changes that you're unprepared for.

Anger: At the person(s) responsible, at your self, at events over which you had no control, at the changes that you will have to go through.

Guilt: Why me, what did I do? Why him/her/them and not me? Was there something that I could have done to have prevented it? Why am I not as sad as everyone else?

Apprehension: Will I ever be able to get over this? How will other people judge me because of this? I'm too afraid/embarassed/ashamed to talk about this with anyone.