Parenting

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(Prov. 4:24)</div> <div> A- Tell the _<U>truth</U>__ (12:22)- the most _<U>important</U>_ thing you teach your children concerning their __<U>words</U>__.</div> <div> B- Say __<U>helpful</U>__ things.  Don't use your tongue as a _<U>weapon</U>_.</div> <div> C- don't use __<U>profanity</U>__ -a sign of _<U>ignorance</U>___.</div> <div> D- it is often _<U>wiser </U>_ to not __<U>talk   </U>. (Prov. 10:19)</div> <bR> <div> 3- the _<U>value</U>__ of ___<U>hard</U>____ _<U>work</U>___ (Prov. 6:6-8,  22:29, 10:4-5).</div> <div> Work _<U>hard</U>__ when _<U>no</U>_ _<U>one</U>__ is _<U>looking</U>_.  Be a _<U>self</U>_-_<U>starter</U>__.</div> <bR> <div> 4- _<U>manage </U>__ their _<U>money</U>_ (Prov. 3:9-10)</div> <div> Be _<U>generous</U>__ with God and He'll be _<U>generous</U>__ with you.</div> <div> Teach them to _<U>give</U>_!!! __<U>giving</U>__ is wise. (11:24-26)</div> <div> Don't be _<U>greedy</U>_ (15:27).  Don't _<U>overwork</U>_ (23:4).</div> <div> Don't _<U>trust</U>_ in _<U>money</U>_ (11:28). _<U>Pay</U>__ the _<U>bills</U>_ on __<U>time</U>__. (Romans 13:8)</div> <bR> <div> 5- be _<U>loving</U>__, __<U>kind</U>_, and _<U>compassionate</U>__. (3:27-29) Matthew 5:44-48 Proverbs 25:21-22</div> <div> Teach them this by how _<U>you</U>_ _<U>treat</U>__ your _<U>enemies</U>___.</div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>LESSONS</B></div> <bR> <div> 1- If you don't _<U>teach</U>__ your children to _<U>fear</U>__ God, then the Devil will teach them to __<U>hate</U>__ God.</div> <div> 2- If you don't teach you children to _<U>obey</U>___ their parents, then the Devil will teach them to _<U>rebel</U>__ against their parents.</div> <div> 3- If you don't teach your children to _<U>wisely</U>__ _<U>chose</U>__ their _<U>friends</U>_, then the Devil will _<U>chose</U>_ them for them.</div> <div> 4- If you don't teach your children to _<U>control</U>_ their _<U>lust</U>_, then the Devil will _<U>teach</U>__ them to fulfill their _<U>lust</U>__.</div> <div> 5- If you _<U>fail </U>__ to teach them to _<U>manage</U>__ their _<U>money</U>_, then the Devil will teach them to _<U>squander</U>_ it.</div> <div> 6- If you fail to teach them to _<U>love</U>_ others, then the Devil will teach them to love _<U>themselves</U>___.</div> <bR> <div> <B>*************</B><B><U>_</U></B><B><U>Someone</U></B><B><U>__</U></B><B> will </B><B><U>_</U></B><B><U>teach</U></B><B><U>___</U></B><B> your </B><B><U>__</U></B><B><U>children</U></B><B><U>_</U></B><B>****************</B></div> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>PARENTING</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>"Provoke Not Your Children" (I.)</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Ephesians 6:4</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>NOTES</B></div> <bR> <div> Christian parents are not _<U>perfect</U>___.  </div> <div> In Paul's day, Roman law--"Patria Potestas" - _<U>fathers</U>___ _<U>power</U>____.</div> <div> A _<U>cruel</U>______ opinion of __<U>Children</U>__!!!!</div> <div> The Bible calls parents to a _<U>higher</U>__ standard.</div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>3 Duties of Parents</B></div> <div> 1. Don't _<U>provoke</U>_ children to _<U>wrath</U>_.</div> <div> How do we do this??? </div> <div> A- _<U>overprotection</U>_ -too much _<U>fence</U>__.</div> <div> Bible example- _<U>Laban</U>___.  He led his daughters to believe that he really did not _<U>care</U>__ for them.  He only wanted what he _<U>wanted</U>__. (Genesis 31:14-17)</div> <div> _<U>Rule</U>__ + _<U>restriction</U>__ without _<U>privilege</U>___ = _<U>prisons</U>___.</div> <div> Children need _<U>room</U>__ to grow and make _<U>mistakes</U>____.</div> <div> B- _<U>overindulge</U>__- excessively _<U>permissive</U>__.</div> <div> Too much _<U>freedom</U>___ = _<U>insecurity</U>___.</div> <div> C- _<U>favoritism</U>__- _<U>Isa</U>__ favored _<U>Esaw</U>_ over _<U>Jacob</U>________ and Rebekah ___<U>favored</U>__ Jacob over _<U>Esaw</U>__.  The boys became _<U>bitter</U>___ rivals.  This even spilled over into the __<U>next</U>__ generation.</div> <div> Don't _<U>compare</U>__ one of your children _<U>unfavorably</U>______ with _<U>another</U>__.</div> <div> D- _<U>unrealistic</U>__ goals- constantly pushing them to do things the _<U>parents</U>__ never did.  We should _<U>encourage</U>_ children to do their _<U>best</U>_ but still _<U>love</U>_ them when they _<U>fall</U>__ short.  I Thess. 2:11</div> <div> Most parents who do this are being _<U>right</U>__.</div> <div> E- _<U>discouragement</U>__- always _<U>focus</U>__ on _<U>wrong</U>__ and never _<U>notice</U> what they did _<U>right</U>__.</div> <div> Good Rule:  For every time you have to point out something _<U>wrong</U>_, you need to try to point out something they did _<U>right</U>_.</div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>LESSONS</B></div> <div> 1. Many _<U>parents</U>__ _<U>provoke</U>__ their _<U>children</U>__ and do not _<U>realize</U>__ it.</div> <div> 2. All _<U>Children</U>__ respond _<U>well</U>_ to _<U>positive</U>_ comments and _<U>approval</U>__.</div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>PARENTING</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>"The Influence of Parents"</B></div> <bR> <div> The _<U>world</U>__ is trying to redefine the _<U>family</U>_!!!!  Politicians want to _<U>replace</U>_ parents with government _<U>programs</U>__.</div> <div> Modern society is on the _<U>decline</U>_ and with it the _<U>family</U>__.</div> <div> The family is getting more and more _<U>disfunctional</U>__ .  Reasons:</div> <div> A- _<U>divorce</U>___ B-_<U>abortion</U>____ C _<U>Children's</U>___ rights D- normalization of the _<U>parent</U>_-_<U>child</U>___ home.</div> <bR> <div> Hillary Clinton- "It takes a _<U>village</U>__" - an agenda to move America _<U>closer</U>_ to _<U>state</U>__- sponsored parenting.</div> <div> We will not save the family through _<U>legislation</U>___ alone.  _<U>Salvation</U>__ is the answer!!!!</div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>SOMETHING IS WRONG???</B></div> <div> There are more _<U>books</U>____, _<U>seminars</U>___, and _<U>programs</U>__ on the family than ever before, yet Christian families are not much _<U>different</U>__ than non-Christian.</div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>Why???</B></div> <div> Many books don't deal with the application of _<U>Biblical</U>__ to parenting.</div> <div> We need to return to:</div> <div> A- teaching the _<U>children</U>_ the Word of God. Deut. 6</div> <div> B- _<U>discipline</U>__ them every time they do _<U>wrong</U>_.</div> <div> C- not _<U>provoke</U>_ them to _<U>anger</U>__.</div> <div> Just applying these _<U>principle</U>_ alone will do _<U>wonders</U>__!!!!!!!!</div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>4 PRINCIPLES</B></div> <div> 1. Children should be seen as a _<U>blessing</U>__ and not a _<U>hardship</U>__.</div> <div> God designed them to be a __<U>blessing</U>__.  They are God's _<U>gift</U>____ to us.</div> <div> Examples: _<U>Gen. 4:1</U>______, _<U>Gen. 4:25</U>________ Psalm 127: 3-5</div> <div>    _<U>Gen. 29 </U>_ - _<U>Eve, Rachel</U>_</div> <div> 2. Parenting is supposed to be a _<U>Joy</U>_ and not a __<U>burden</U>__.</div> <div> Parents make it hard by _<U>failing </U> to follow the _<U>Bible</U>________. Prov. 29:17</div> <bR> <div> 3. Success in parenting is _<U>measure</U>___ by what the parents do and not by what the _<U>Child</U>__ does.  What about Prov. 22:6??  Proverbs are _<U>wise</U>__ sayings but not inviolable <U>rules</U>_.  Example: Prov. 10:27</div> <bR> <div> 4. The child's most important _<U>influence</U>_ should be the _<U>parents</U>_, not _<U>piers</U>__.</div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>Parenting is _</B><B><U>full</U></B><B>_ - ___</B><B><U>time</U></B><B>__!!!!!!!</B></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>PARENTING</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>"What Kind of Model Am I?"</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>I Corinthians 11:1</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>NOTES</B></div> <bR> <div> _<U>Parents</U>__ are the primary _<U>role model</U> of children!!</div> <div> _<U>All</U>_ <U>happy </U>parents are the best _<U>shapers</U>___.</div> <div> Some things are _<U>taught</U>__ and some are _<U>caught</U>__!!</div> <div> What is __<U>caught</U>__????????</div> <div> 1. _<U>Attitudes</U>__</div> <div> 2. _<U>Character</U>__ <U>traits</U></div> <div> What is _<U>caught</U>_????????</div> <div> 1. _<U>Skills</U>_</div> <div> 2. Bible _<U>knowledge</U>__</div> <div> Models are usually _<U>attractive</U>_!!!</div> <div> Do we cause our children to want to be <U>married</U>, serve _<U>God</U>__, etc.?</div> <div> As parents, we are all " _<U>on  </U> _<U>stage</U>__" all of the time.</div> <div> Our _<U>audience</U>__ is _<U>adult</U>__ in _<U>training</U>_.</div> <div> Teens are _<U>experts</U>__ at spotting _<U>inconsistency</U>__.</div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>SUGGESTION</B></div> <div> First 10 years-- _<U>verbal</U>_ _<U>teaching</U>_</div> <div> Second 10 years-- _<U>modeling</U>__</div> <bR> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>LESSON</B></div> <bR> <div> It is _<U>difficult</U>__ for children to _<U>rise</U>_ _<U>above</U>_ the _<U>level</U>_ of their _<U>parents</U>.</div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>