John
and Cynthia's relationship
I'm going to try
to write this as honestly as I can, based on fact. You've got to remember:
sex, gossip, and trash sells best. There have been many horrible things
written about this relationship, basically because Yoko is the one
everyone pays attention to, which is not right. Cynthia was there before
the Beatles, before the fame, before the money. She was the woman John
loved before he got disfigured by fame, drugs, and so on. Cynthia herself
has said most of what the books say aren't true but they write what sells
best. It's time to set people straight!
9-10-39: Cynthia Powell is born in Blackpool.
10-9-1940- John Lennon is born in Liverpool
-When Cynthia is 17 when her beloved father dies of cancer. Unknown to
many, this tragic loss creates a strong bond and understanding between
Cynthia and John, who also loses a parent at 17(his mother). Julian Lennon
also will lose John at 17.
-John and Cynthia meet in Liverpool Art College where they both are
pursuing art in 1957. At first they both don't like each other too much
until John begins to steal her art materials and constantly tease her
about her primness. These are obvious attempts at gaining attention from
Cynthia and soon Cynthia develops a crush on John.
- At a party in 1958 John asks Cynthia to dance. She says no saying she's
engaged. A determined John replies, "I didn't ask you to marry me did
I?" The two dance closely and intimately as the rest of the party
looks on at the unlikely combination.
-Later, John and Cynthia go to the pub for a drink. Cynthia loses John in
the crowd and smoke, beginning to think it was all a sick joke. However,
as she nears the door, John shouts out, "Did everybody know Miss
Powell was a nun then?" She turns around, their eyes meet, and she
goes over to his side. Later after returning to John's flat, they make
love for the first time and are inseparable from that point on.
-John becomes increasingly possessive over Cynthia. The slightest move
toward another man sends him off the handle in jealousy. Even though John
doesn't like Cynthia so much as speaking to another man, he feels it's ok
to dabble with other women. However, John puts Cynthia on a pedestal. She
is classier, smarter, and prettier than any of the other girls he had been
with. John's biggest fear is Cynthia discovering his unfaithfulness. Even
at this age, John doesn't want to hurt Cynthia. They are rarely out of each other's
company and often sit together for hours on end holding each other's hands in coffee shops, just talking and looking into
each other's eyes.
FACT: After college one afternoon, Cynthia and John return to his flat for
an afternoon of love making. Cynthia soon begins to suffer from appendix pain in the middle of it and it is John who dresses her, picks her up, and
carries her to the train station, bundling her onto the train.
-On August 23, 1962 Cynthia and John marry after Cynthia becomes pregnant.
They had already been together nearly five years and marriage had been
mentioned in letters from Hamburg from John earlier that year. He
suggested they get engaged but nothing was ever done. Pete Best also said
in many interviews and his book, John often talked about how he wanted to
settle down with Cynthia eventually at one point and start a family.
Sadly, the two were forced to be married too young.
-On April 8, 1963 John Charles Julian Lennon is born to his parents, John
and Cynthia Lennon.
Cynthia remains John's wife during Beatlemania, John's controversial Jesus
Statement, the Sgt. Pepper faze, and India. Cynthia is John's home base.
She provides him with love and support in anything he does. John knows she
will always be there when he gets home and finds comfort and love in her.
She is his roots, a reminder of where he comes from.
In the late 60s, John becomes heavily involved with drugs. Cynthia
refuses, thinking of their son. John begins to change. He is finally
affected by the fame and drugs. He is no longer the same man she fell in
love with. However, John wants Cyn to change with him. He constantly tries
to convince her to take drugs with him, an odd attempt at saving their
relationship. On one horrific LSD trip, with John leading her through it,
Cynthia begins to cry, seeing hellish images. John comforts her, saying
how much he loves her and that he'll never leave her. After the trip,
Cynthia realizes it's something she never wants to go through again. She
also realizes the marriage is over. John changed. She remained the same
girl he fell in love with, later saying that was her biggest mistake. He
is no longer on the same communication level and communicating becomes
impossible. Their marriage is really over before Yoko Ono.
In 1968, Cynthia returns from a holiday catching John and Yoko in
bathrobes. She runs out, shocked and hurt. Cynthia herself has an affair
with Magic Alex, John's close friend, after a night of crying and
drinking. Unknown to many, Cynthia RETURNS to the house a few days later
and John PURSUES her to stay, saying it was nothing with Yoko. Obviously
John was going through much heartache and confusing in deciding whether or
not to officially end the marriage. He couldn't decide between the two
women and Cynthia and John remain together for a few more months.
A few months later, before leaving for another holiday, John doesn't even
say goodbye. Cynthia remembers him laying on the bed, dazed out and
confused. In Italy, she opens a newspaper to see John and Yoko together,
in public. She knows their marriage is officially over and it becomes
final on November 8, 1968.
Through the years, John's relationship with son Julian becomes strained.
This is most likely because of Cynthia. To John she was a reminder of who
he used to be, what his life used to be like and he couldn't deal with
that. A strong connection and love had been broken and John feels it
should be broken forever. If not, it brings back too many memories. Keep
in mind John went through a tough childhood with both parents walking out
on him, fame taking it's toll, and drugs changing him. John couldn't deal
with Cynthia so he pushed the situation away. Sadly, it's Julian who
really has to pay for it. John used to tell Cynthia in the early days the
best form of defense was attack. She just never imagined someday she's be
on the receiving end. Because Cynthia is a reminder of his past, and the
woman he used to love, John often puts her down and says not-so-nice
things about her in the 70s. It is his way of protecting himself. In
reality talking about Cynthia makes him vulnerable and insecure. That's
why he does it. Also talking about your ex not so nicely is a sign that
you are not only insecure but not entirely over them...
On Dec. 8, 1980 John is shot to death outside the Dakota in New York City.
Yoko Ono does not allow Cynthia to come to the states with Julian, who is
in no state to travel by himself. He is forced to. This is something
Cynthia will never forgive Yoko for. To this day, Cynthia states that John
was her first love, and her true love. They loved each other before the
Beatles, before the fame, and before the drugs. Perhaps Cynthia was the
one the real John loved. The John before he got disfigured by the myth...
Taken from John
and Cynthia Lennon: A Sad Love Story
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