In the name of Allah, the most Merciful , The Most beneficial.

Prophet Mohammed (S.A) who pronounced in public,
" I have passed through from the noble spinal column (of fathers) to the purified wombs (of mothers)".

Allah says

"I created not the jinn and man but to worship me". So it behoves man to always occupy himself in His Ibadat. But man being restricted by worldly obstructions feels handicapped to fulfill this obligation.

Islam is a Deen that has force to mould all worldly affairs in meritorious and venerated acts and breathes in them the blessings of the eternal world.

The Loftiness of Faith and Human nobility

Allah has created the universe and gave a particular form to every thing. The human being is blessed with Aql (reasoning) and Nutq (speech) and therefore he is regarded as the best of all creations. On account of this great nemat (bounty), he is different from animals and because of the nobility of this creation every act of his must be unique and distinct. The enlightened Shariat endows all Momineen men and women with this distinct capability.

Allah has created man in such a way that he cannot live without home and society.

All relations are established through marriage

Allah says in the Holy Quran, "Human Being are born of man and women. They belong to different groups and tribes. The most respected among you before Allah is one who is the most fearing of Allah. Indeed, Allah is omniscient".

It is the Law of Nature to have male and female among all its creation. This reflects the great wisdom of Allah. It is the requirement of human nobility to solemnise marriage between man and women.

Marriages establish different relations like that of father, mother, brother, sister, etc.

"And he it is who hath created man from water and hath appointed for him Kindred by blood and Kindred by marriage for thy lord is ever powerful."

Marriage is a source of worldly pleasure and is an important aspect of human life. The philosophy of Islam enunciates the blending of worldly pleasure with eternal rewards. Accordingly Rasulullah (S.A) set all worldly affairs into the celestial mould. One of them is consummation, which is transformed into Ibadat as Nikah. As such Rasulullah(S.A) says "NIKAH IS ONE OF MY TRADITIONS".

It is made obligatory for every Momin that marriages should be performed within the frame work of Shariat to attain the purity of relations.

Requirement and significance of marriage

Male – Female togetherness is a natural requirement which is more obvious in animals. According to the nobility of the human being, he is bound to observe certain rules in this context.

The Shariat has executed some rules and regulations with regards to marriage by the observance of which marriage is regarded as an act of worship.

The necessity of marriage

Holy Prophet says, A person who desires to meet Allah in the condition of purity should achieve chastity through his wife . He also says " If you desire to be my nature - you must follow my tradition (sunnat) and marriage is one of my sunnat".

He also says that when a Momin has lawful togetherness with his wife, the angels surround him and he gets the reward of Jehad in the way of Allah. When he separates from her, all his sins shed like the leaves of the tree which fall in its season . When he takes bath, he is redeemed from all his sins.

He says that when any youth gets married in his mature age, the devil shouts and says, " Woe to me, this man has protected two-thirds of his Iman from me". Then the Prophet says, " Man should fear Allah in the remaining one third.

Maulana Ali (S.A) says, "Whenever any one of the Prophet’s companions got married, he used to say that his Iman became perfect.

Rasulullah (S.A) says that ," Whoever gives up marriage for the fear of poverty, lacks confidence and fails to understand Allah. The Holy Quran states, "If they be poor , Allah will enrich them of his bounty. Allah is of ample means".

Prophet Mohammed(S.A) has pointed out five means of happiness, in which a virtuous wife and good children are included. He says that life in this world is a source of happiness and the best means to achieves it, is to have a pious wife. He says," It is the sign of happiness for a Muslim man to have a virtuous wife, a spacious home, good means of transport (horse) and good children".

The Prophet has prohibited one to marry a woman on account of her wealth and beauty for wealth will make her autocratic and pre dominant, and also beauty will ruin her.

The coming of the wife to the house is a source of blessing and affluence in provision. Through marriage one gets the blessing of children, which is one of the greatest favours in the world. Vice and sickness is removed through marriage. Lawful marriage helps to retain from Vices and preserve physical and mental health.

It is against the system of Iman to reject an offer of marriage on account of his being related to an ordinary family, when his deen and walayat is sound. The Prophet delivered an address on "Fateh-e-Mecca". After the praise of Allah he said, "O ,the people : Allah has removed the pride of Jaheliyah and the habit of being proud of forefathers. Beware: you are children of Adam and Adam was created out of dust. The best of all people is one who fears Allah.

Amir-ul-Momineen(S.A) says that the physical constitution of man is basically the same because their father is Adam and mother is Hawwa.

Rasulullah(S.A) says, "The best marriage is one that is easier".

The Prophet says, "The best women of my Ummat are those who are beautiful in face and less in mehr. Beauty in face basically means cleanliness, beauty and poise in her house.

The Prophet says, "Let Every man be prepared for his wife as he wants his wife to be prepared for him". This "preparation" refers to the preparation of the body and soul.

The Prophet says, "It is a good omen for a women to have easiness in her marriage and her Mehr. It is the right of woman to demand Mehr". There is no limit for it, either more or less, but Huddat-e-Kiram have guided us to demand moderate Mehr within one’s capacity.

The system of Deen is necessary to be followed in engagement, Nikah and marriage. Everything should be performed within the frame-work of the Shariat.

It is necessary to show and propagate happiness at the time of Nikah and marriage within the capacity of every one. It is a tradition to celebrate the occasion by playing of the bend. It is not Music, which is prohibited which brings poverty and nifaque. But at a time of happiness such as marriage it is desirable to beat drums, to show happiness.

The night, Molatena Fatema’s marriage was solemnised with Amir-ul-Momineen (S.A). The Prophet heard the sound of drums. When he asked about this, Umme-Salama informed him that Asma was beating the drum to appease Fatema , so that she may not think that after her mother Khadija’s death, no one was there to celebrate the happiness. The Prophet raised his hands and prayed, "O, Allah ! Let Thy grace be bestowed on Asma and asked her about what she uttered while beating the drum. Asma replied, "I do not know what to utter. I only beat the drum just to appease Fatema". The Prophet advised her not to utter any immoral words.

Emphasize on Marriage

Syedna Taher Saifuddin Maula (R.A) and his successor, our Aqa Moula (TUS) say emphatically that boys and girls should necessarily be married as soon as they are of marriageable age. A lot of vices and social problems would have to be faced with the delay in marriage. Special consideration should be given to girls in this connection.

Aqa maula’s Irshad Mubarak is that " When girls grow up, don’t make them sit in the house. Send them to their husband’s house. Love and Iman should be the foundation of the edifice of marriage. Wealth and status should not be given priority and importance when boys and girls grows up, they should get married. Parents generally face emotional problems when children grow up and remain unmarried.

Boys and girls sometimes give the excuse of education for delay in marriage and some parents agree with them. It is not advisable and is against their interest. To arrange marriages on time brings about betterment and happiness; delay is a source of mental and physical sickness. It also creates stubbornness in the minds of children and causes evil deeds. This matter is more necessary in relation to girls because after a lapse of time, there may not be good, suitable proposals for her.

Our religion does not prevent anyone from education. Education may be continued under all circumstances but it is important to do each thing at its proper time. Whatever instructions are given by our Hudaat-e-Kiram are full of wisdom and betterment for us in all aspect of life.

Some girls are busy with employment and thus it causes delay in marriages and the parents wrongly think that if the girls get married, the salary earned could not be utilized by them.

All these ideas and acts are against the Shariat. The harm and disadvantages become obvious to them after a while and they repent. In this way, it is not advisable for parents to harm the life of their daughters just for the sake of their personal gains. Allah will provide all means and grant good reward in the next world.

Sometimes it so happens that young boys or girls in a house get engaged and elders remain unmarried. The parents think that unless the elders are married, the youngsters will not. Their marriage should not be delayed reasonable time.

Sometimes parents use this point as an excuse. If there is a delay in the marriage of the elders, the parents should try to get their younger children married. Allah will provide means for others also by the grace of these marriages.

The rules of Shariat are a source of happiness and to act accordingly is the cause of our betterment and benevolence. One of its rules insists upon a man to re- marry if his wife dies of if he divorces her for some reason and upon a woman to remarry if her husband die or if she is divorced.

Hudaat-e-Kiram insists upon this, as it is the cause of happiness and betterment for the family and society. Similarly if a man grows old wants to marry, it is necessary to observe the instructions of Nabi( S.A) as he says, "Get married to a suitable partner". Iman provides equality. It is advisable to think of mental and physical equality as far as possible.

If matured boys and girls refrain from marriage, they should be convinced by the family and members of the society through the words of Hudaat Kiram and specially through the instruction of Aqa Maula (TUS). Explain to them the harms of delay in marriage in the light of these instructions, the harm to self, family and society. They should be made aware of the blessings of marriages and Araz Mubarak should be made in Hazrat-aliyah for Duo Mubarak.

Araz in Hazarat-Aliyah should be made with photographs if suitable offers do not come for the boys or girls. Aqa Maula (TUS) gives Tasbeeh for this purpose and they should recite it.

The marriage formalities

In printing invitation cards there should be Deeni Kalemaat and religious systems, with Hamd and Salawat in Lisa-nud-dawat and words of thanks for Aqa Maula (TUS) so that the heavenly Barakaat flows.

One of the important matters of marriage to be kept in mind is the matter of vaali of the Bride who will hold marriage sitting before Qazil-Haq. If the holder of the marriage of the daughter wants to go away on a journey, he should submit the vakaalat of the daughter’s Valaayet before Amil Saheb in the presence of two witnesses so that no obstacle may come at the time of her Nikah. The person to whom vakaalat is given can hold the Nikah.

Particularly Syedna Taher Saifuddin(R.A) and his successor, Syedna Mohammed Burhanuddin (TUS) have suggested provisions and procedures to make Nikah and other related matters easy. One of them is "Anjuman-e-Taiseer-n-Nikam". One of their objectives is to arrange equal and suitable matches between Momin males and females and for that purpose to organize gatherings among them so that they could see, talk and get introduced to each other. The anjuman could try to remove the obstacles and solve the problems pertaining to this. It arranges match making in Bilad Imaniya – all over the world by these gatherings. It is obligatory for all Momineen to realize and understand that this kind of provision is one of the greatest Nemat of Aqa Maula(TUS) whose blessings reach the society in general.

No parents or their children should hesitate to come to the office, note down their names and give details. All essential matters are kept confidential. The circle of selection is wide for youngster. Special consideration and attention is given to preserve the religious dignity, self respect and position is al Ijtemaat (gatherings).

Syedna Taher Saifuddin Maula(R.A) established Resme-Saifee in which one Majlis is held at which a number of Nikahs are performed and one Jaman is arrange . Itb is a way to get rid of the long and intolerable chain of give and take system and hence expense can be reduced and discrimination between groups in thew Society Should be eliminated. According to this system, marriage is being performed in all Imani cities and Momineeen long for marriages of their children in this Rasm-e-Saifee.

The First Night

Allah the Almighty fulfills the desires of a momin through the intercession of His chosen ones. Marriage is one of the most important requisites of a man’s life. It regularises his life, casts away adversity and crowns him with honour and dignity.

Therefore Rasulullah(S.A) has established a noble tradition to offer gratitude to Allah before consummation. He ordained that the bride and groom first offer namaaz for their fulfillment of all desires. Then the bridegroom places his hand on the bride’s forehead and pray to Allah, "O, Lord bless me in my wife and bless her in me. Link us in wedlock with good, bliss and bounty. If you separate us make it for our betterment." Then he recites the following Doa " I praise Allah that He, by this marriage guided me, provided me my need, gave me respect amongst the people whilst I was unknown, relieved me my loneliness and fear and uplifted me from my humiliation. O, Lord I praise you lavishly for whatever you have bestowed upon me and set aside for me."

These prayers enhance the importance of marriage and the respect it commands. On the first night of marriage which marks the dawn of married life, to praise Allah in such a manner, and beseech Him for the fulfillment of all desires, highlights the greatness of Islam.

Allah perfected the deen of Islam and completed His favours through its perfection. Islam aims at the betterment of this world and hereafter. It provides guidance for the eternal world without narrowing the scope of temporal life. It is a comprehensive deen that opens the door for merriment on certain occasions.

Praise be to Allah and salam be upon His selected and chosen people. May Allah send Salawat to His prophet, the leader of all prophets and to Ali Bin Abu Talib, the leader of all Vasiyeen and to their noble and chaste descendants. .